Why do couples break up? The sex is bad, someone cheated or a long distance relationship happened? There can be many reasons for a couple to part ways, but there is one which I think is seriously endangering, especially to young couples, around the world: they’re scared of commitment.

A lot of people love the idea of a relationship early on. The feeling of having a girlfriend or boyfriend is great, but for more and more people this feeling is short lived. Surprisingly sometimes it may even be the guy that wants to take the next step, but the woman is too scared. I am living proof of this! My longest relationship has been 1 month and now I’m seeing a lovely girl at the moment, she’s the same age, likes me and is much better looking than I am, which is always a bonus! I’ve been ‘seeing her’ for around a month and a half now but am dreading the moment she talks about “where we are going” or “what are we doing”; yes I am scared of commitment.

The average age of marriage is getting later, especially for men. The days of meeting at 20 and getting married at 23 are nearly invisible as more and more people are enjoying being single until a late age. I must admit, being single is fun. You don’t have to worry about calling your girlfriend at least 3 times a week; you don’t get into trouble for being ‘friends’ with your ex-girlfriend on Facebook. Once you get past the barrier of commitment, you’re over the tallest hurdle because you’re ready to admit to yourself that you’re ready to spend the rest of your life in a relationship.

The first thing that comes into your mind when you see someone you are attracted to is…what do I say? Those first few lines could set you up for life, mean you have a fixed date or unfortunately that you are going home alone – again.

Here at Quiverz we throw dating events for our members to get to know each other face to face, not just virtually. Everyone finds it easy to talk someone online, but what happens when you are put in a physical situation where eye contact and body language come into play?

It is often said women are attracted to men who are witty and amusing….this can be true depending on how you deliver what you are saying, not the words themselves. You don’t want to approach a woman trying to be this year’s entertainer! Let’s be honest, it will end badly.

On the other hand, it can be nerve wracking for some to make the opening line, almost like giving a public speech. And this is where Quiverz works, this is where our members can practice by speaking to more and more people, and in turn becoming more sociable themselves and building up their confidence. Just make sure you haven’t had too many cocktails beforehand!

Breaking the ice is always the best thing to do in any situation, and it isn’t just men I am talking about, women use lines as much as they do. She may have more success, because face it, chat up lines have been associated with men for years so if a woman uses a classic one, she will do it carefully and selectively.

So what are some of the typical chat up lines? They can’t all be bad -  some can be quite amusing….

I have lost my phone number, can I have yours?
Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?
If I could rearrange the alphabet I would put you and I together
Do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk past again?
Get your coat, you’ve pulled
Do you sleep on your front? Do you mind if I do?
Is that a mirror in your pocket? It’s just that I can see myself in your pants!
Are your legs hurting because you have been running through my mind all night?

What lines have you been propositioned with in the past? Tell us now………………………………………………

Quiverz, rave singles consultancy crack a list of quirky suggestions on how to turn that first date into a second one.

What kind of first date would you want? Should the man take the lead? Who should pay? There’s an understated yet thrillingly fun feel to the debate about first dates and how to do it right. It’s not about throwing lots of money around, but being imaginative and discerning. Here at Quiverz we agree the first impressions will make or break the date….

As a First Date Why Not….

• Stargaze under the nearest available sky, with a bottle of fine wine and a blanket for company

• Learn to romp – sorry, dance – together at Pineapple Dance Studios

• Sweep them off their feet with a horse-riding lesson in Hyde Park

• Take a chance on me with a day at the races

• Take lessons in mixology: because it’s all about that perfect blend/match

• Cook ones way to a man’s heart with the able help of Hawksmoor at Home, a luscious volume from the cult meatery. Then tell him to bring the (homemade) dessert

• Take to the country for a day of shooting or archery. Cupid would be proud

• Rally driving in a ravishing classic car. That one about women not being good drivers? She will give you a run for your money…

Take Advantage Of Our Double Dating Service….

• Take over the whole of Cliff Barns in Norfolk: Although you won’t want to leave this English ranch with its hot tubs and resident chef, deer stalking, horse-riding and clay pigeon shooting beckon couples forthwith

• Eyes Wine Shut: a masked wine tasting whereby one engages with the person and the wine-laced conversation, not what they look like

• A Flirtology class for scholarly friends

• Get a mixed group together to feast at the private Krug rooms of the Dorchester

A World Where Business Meets pleasureis our slogan here at Quiverz, but do we really believe that? I am sure many of you sitting at your desk in the office have the ‘hots’ for at least one person. The large majority of people out there believe that it is fine to have a fling with someone in the office. You really want to believe that one night won’t mean anything or affect you at work. But the only people who do believe this have most likely never done this with anyone involved within the workplace.

I have some good family friends who are now happily married with children, they both met at work, they sat opposite each other, got together 1 month working together and haven’t stopped for 8 years. You can sneak around the place as much as you can, but when it starts to get serious the moment comes when you have to tell everyone. What I am trying to say is maybe it is worth taking the risk?

So with Work Christmas Party season in full swing, feelings get the better of people and the anxieties over your colleague’s opinions disappear. You are almost allowed to really feel worry free about anything that happens that evening, and see it as a chance to start a blossoming relationship or just have a bit of fun. Could it be a bad move though too?

We strongly agree with our slogan, but can pleasure mix with your own business? For me personally, I don’t see too many problems with having some fun or starting a relationship with someone at work. If you are looking for a night where you can release built up anxieties then the Work Christmas Party is the time to do so, good luck!

Holidays are coming! Some are having the times of their life during Winter holidays: parties, friends, celebrations, cheering, sharing, etc.. Some find this time of the year very demanding. Most of us experience something in-between these two extremes: fun in some situation, pressure in others. Joy of sharing time with people we love, uncertainty about how to deal with holidays pressure.

These are 8 steps you can embrace to live joyfully during the holidays. You can live happily by:

1. Being present, and accepting

Start with yourself.

If you feel joyful in the situation you are now, than enjoy it fully and share it with people around you! No matter what we are conditioned into thinking, joy comes from inside, and grows when shared. Not from the latest gadget on sale, nor from getting a career advancement.

If you feel the current situation is neutral, for example now that you are reading this post and the holidays celebrations are not here yet, then just enjoy the space. Right here and now, everything is fine. When the time for celebrations comes, then you will have plenty of energy and resources to be part of it.

If you find yourself in a situation which is not comfortable, then just breath. Breath in, breath out, Breath slowly, to relax your sympathetic system. You may have your lucky charm, your favourite jokes to tell, etc. However, sometimes you may not be able to use them. Breathing is always with you, so keep it your friend.

Then be aware of people and surroundings. We are all on the same boat, with our ups and downs. With our strengths and question marks. With our funny jokes, and cliches. Accept people as they are, give them space. Most they will respond by accepting you as you are.

Let the “ghosts” of past and future holidays go. Accept the past holidays are gone. Accept the future holidays are far from now. Be in the present moment.

2. Positive phrasing

For these holidays, and for most of your life, visualize more what you want to be, and less what you want to move away from. If I say you: “do not think about the pink tree!”, what do you visualize? A pink tree! Positive visualizations and course of actions, being/doing what you want to be/do, are more powerful than negative ones (moving away from something).

Read the rest of the article here, http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/holiday-depression-8-steps-to-be-happy

This year, make a great impression on your date by following these ten simple rules.

Between Thanksgiving Day and New Year’s Eve, your calendar is booked with house parties, office shindigs, trips, and fundraisers. ‘Tis the season to bring a date! We’ll help you make a good impression in these common holiday social situations.

1) Ice Skating—Don’t Freeze Her Out
In the girl world, ice skating is the winter version of a romantic walk on the beach. I remember going skating once with a guy I was massively crushing on and he totally blew it. When he tore into the rink, started cutting up the ice, and skated circles around me (crouched in the rough approximation of a speed skater), I knew that he wasn’t worth my time. What a douche!

Unless your date is an Olympic hopeful, she’s not going to consider an invitation to the rink an opportunity to get a work-out in. Every woman I know—from the college cheerleader to the Big Law partner—wants her hand held when ice skating. And if she falls (perhaps intentionally—yes we can be that devious), you’ve got the perfect excuse to brush off her wet booty and cheer her up with a cup of hot cocoa.

2) Get Multicultural
Before you start going on about The Baby Jesus and singing your favorite carols at the top of your lungs, stop, drop, and ask yourself, “Is she Jewish?” I’ve known “non-practicing” Jews who go feral on people who aren’t sensitive about this issue.

With so many shopping mall Santa’s and Christmas trees in your face, it can be easy to forget that some people don’t celebrate Christmas. Don’t make this mistake. Likewise, is she a Jehovah’s Witness? Muslim? Does she celebrate Kwanzaa in addition to Christmas?

3) Rocking the Holiday Sweater
A holiday sweater is a great way to sport your spirit and get laughs out of her, but there’s a fine line between cute ugly and just plain fugly. Be cautious when breaking out the outlandish, and disgustingly joyful sweater your grandmother knitted for you.

If it’s got blinking lights, bells attached, or makes any noises whatsoever, you’re really screaming, “Hey, look at me! Hey! Pay attention to me!” Not cool. Unless you’re sure she’s got a high tolerance for wackiness, leave holiday sweaters that require batteries at home and let her be the center of attention.

Read more here http://www.mensfitness.com/advice/dating-tips/holi-dating-dos-and-donts, article by Isabel Pen